So far in our project I have; 1. Been called to serve on
the Bishop’s Nominating Committee, 2. Attended a retreat which brought the team
together and molded us through a common purpose and process, 3. Helped set up
communications across the diocese and publish the process, the timeline, the
biographies of the sub committees and frequently asked questions (and answers).
At this point I felt that the sub-committee teams were
being formed and the exciting work was about to begin.
It was time for “"Whoever has ears to hear, let them hear."(Mark
4:9)
First, there was the need to listen across the diocese and
gather information about each community’s strengths, weaknesses, opportunities
and challenges. We achieved this through a Holy Cow Landscape Survey which gave
an overall view of how the diocese saw itself plus 357 specific suggestions the
respondents would like considered.
At this point the Listening and Surveying Sub Committee
planned and arranged the active listening sessions across 9 geographic locations.
As the whole Nominating Committee was to be split across locations to conduct
the listening sessions I was drawn to Mark 6:7 when Jesus “called the twelve and
began to send them out two by two“.
Theologically I felt the Holy Spirit was with us in the listening
process planning and with each congregation as they answered the call to
participate in the sessions. As I prayed on this and looked for relevant
passages of scripture to support my feelings, I was guided to Luke 10:2 “These were his instructions to them: “The
harvest is great, but the workers are few. So, pray to God who is in charge of
the harvest; ask for more workers to send into the fields.”.
When the sessions started, it seemed
obvious to me the workers (attendees) we prayed for came!
To me, the start of each session was rather like a worship
service, starting with a prayer and then preaching the objectives, guidelines, processes
to each team.
All the attendees were to be split into multiple, diverse groups
to discuss the 4 key questions the Listening Sub Committee had developed.
Just like many of the attendees I was surprised by the questions.
I was expecting direct questions such as “What do you want in a Bishop” or “What should our next Bishop be like” but
the questions were expertly crafted to elicit discussion and opinion, including:
·
Who
are we?
·
Who
are our neighbors?
·
What
is God calling me to do right now?
·
How
can our Bishop help me (us) do what God is calling us to do?
In each group every person was given the chance to answer
these questions followed by group discussion. Notes were taken to present to
the Nominating Committee.
In these sessions I noticed how important it was to
actively listen, to concentrating on what is being said rather than just
passively ‘hearing’ the message of the speaker.
What I am reminded of again
and again, is that listening is one of the most important interpersonal
communication skills and unlike “hearing” is not something that just happens.
It is an active process which requires a conscious and constant decision to
listen to and understand the messages being delivered.
When I was actively listening, I tried to engage all senses,
give full attention to the speaker, show interest in what was being said, be
neutral and non-judgmental, not take sides or form opinions, and be patient.
In all these conversations if there were pauses and short
periods of silence I was tempted to jump in with questions or comments, but I made
a conscious effort to focus on the speaker instead.
I found this took energy, humbleness and patience to give
each person adequate time to explore their thoughts and feelings and to focus
on the message they were delivering through their speech and non-verbal signs. It took personal concentration and God’s grace for me to “have ears to
hear”, rather than a tongue which would not be still.
I found I was not just listening and waiting to give a
preconceived reply, I was listening with an open mind and open heart,
recognizing that each person had different and valuable thoughts, feelings and
a message to share.
Within the sessions and the resulting notes, I could see
the Holy Spirit at work in all the discussions, reminding me of Isaiah
55:11 “So
shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty,
but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing
for which I sent it”
At each session we had prayed, gave the word in the objectives
and questions, and truly it did not come back empty. Together we all succeeded
in our purpose and gave the information needed to develop the profile of our
diocese.
From the Holy Cow Landscape Survey, listening session
notes, and photographs from events across the diocese the Profile Sub-Committee
wanted to develop a document which captured the sense of the people and the
mission of the whole diocese. The profile would be pictorially and visually
rich, focused on the community and convey the current mission, the geographical
and cultural richness, and complexity of San Diego.
I felt that in the sessions we did have “ears to hear”, we did listen to each
person and the Holy Spirit then guided the development of the profile.
Rather than publish a job description or laundry list of
what we wanted in a new Bishop this profile would communicate a description of
us, our neighbors, what we are being called to do and then asked nominees to
tell us how they could help us.
Again, through the guidance of the Holy Spirit our words would
not return empty.
In reflecting on the complicated process of active
listening I think each community was heard and provided the information to
develop a profile reflecting our hopes, dreams, and our challenges, but more
importantly God’s will for our Diocese.
I think this part of the
project is where God challenged all of us to respond to what we are being
called to do, but one question to ask yourself is “Can you identify similarities and dissimilarities in how you actively listen and
act on what you hear?”
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